Its tough being single

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How do I tell my friends I really don't want to hear about the problems they are having in their relationships? It is really hard for me to listen to them complain about their spouses or ificant others when I am fighting hard to accept being single. They assume that because things are going well in other aspects of my life, I am okay with my nonexistent romantic life, and therefore free to listen to them complain.

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I am not. It's the reason I have been in and out of therapy for the past few years—the inability to accept and deal with the fact that I am single, with no real prospects on the horizon. When I tell them that I don't want to hear it, I truly mean it, but they assume I'm only kidding and keep talking. I have to take breaks from them just to get away before I explode and ruin friendships.

What your friends might not realize is that many single people who long for a partner experience something called ambiguous loss or ambiguous grief. Lots of people experience ambiguous grief, not only those hoping to find a partner. A woman might experience it if she is trying and unable to get pregnant, though she has not lost. But one thing that does make it additionally challenging is that it tends to go unacknowledged.

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There are no community rituals in place to support these people in their grief. Instead, their grief goes largely unnoticed. If your coupled friends understood your ambiguous grief—the intangible loss, the not knowing, the toggling between hope one minute and sadness the next—they might show more sensitivity by toning down their complaints and taking your request more seriously.

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So rather than taking breaks from them or biting your tongue during these conversations, you might find it beneficial to be more direct in sharing your experience with them. Then you might explain the nuances of ambiguous grief, and let your friends know what exacerbates it.

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For example:. Imagine how I feel when you complain that your husband, who adores and desires you, wants to have sex with you at an inopportune time—while my choices are sex with strangers or no sex at all.

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Having this conversation will help with one aspect of ambiguous grief: isolation. Dear Therapist is for informational purposes only, does not constitute medical advice, and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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