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Serving a Dominant is a very fulfilling lifestyle. However, many submissive beginners are lost. Many times they are just looking for someone to fix them, to make them feel complete. But being a sub is a lot of work. Physically, mentally, and sexually. How can you successfully meet the challenge? I have a FREE cheatsheet for you to help put these ideas into practice!
Click the button below to get it right now. First and foremost, a sub is not a doormat.
They want someone who truly desires to be owned. Unlike BDSM, abuse has no limits or safewords. If you are a sub, be very careful not to give your submission to just anyone. True submission has to be earned first. There are many bad Doms out there, and even predators pretending to be Doms. The definition of a submissive is a person who is consensually obedient and compliant to their partner, and who also likes to give up control.
They crave being used and need to serve. A submissive can take on many different roles such as:. They strive to please their Dom in all things, not just sexually.
This means that they may have to give up some of their own personal freedoms and preferences. It is not uncommon for a sub to have a mild and quiet personality. They are obedient, and accept discipline when needed. Subs aim to conduct themselves in a respectful and modest manner at all times, recognizing that their behavior is a direct reflection on their Dom. Subs are not perfect; they will mess up from time to time. It can be hard to work on behavior modification and serving someone else when you are tired and pressed for time. One challenge I have had to overcome as a submissive is topping from the bottom.
Proactively thinking what the Dom needs in any given moment, and fulfilling it will bring him great pleasure. They should also try to obey rules to the best of their ability, but if discipline is necessary they should take it willingly. Wearing a collar, even a discreet one in public, can help keep a sub in the slave mindset. They are property owned by someone else, and as such they are a representation of their Dom. This will cause a sub to take great pride in the health and presentation of their bodies.
Ways they can do this are:. True submission is not just a role, it is a way of life. Being a submissive means they are held to a higher standard, but it is all worth it. Thanks for visiting the site!
There are lots of online and offline BDSM communities you could check out. I list some of my favorite places in Dom Sub Trainingand give my step-by-step tips to find a partner. My Dom found me on a dating site. So was not expecting it. But now I know, he was what I had needed.
So thankful that I did not swipe left! Would have missed out on an amazing opportunity! Hi Barbara! I know it can be hard to find a Dom. Take care! I feel more fulfilled seeing him so pleased with me when I do a good job. Hello, I was wondering how to became a better sub with detail. So how does it work being who I am along with being a good sub. Hi Mallory! Be sure to download the free guide above fore more details about how to become a better sub.
Thanks for this info. As a sub I struggle with being a sub outside of the bedroom. Thank you so much for reading! It can be hard to take the submissive personality out of the bedroom and into everyday life. You can still be a confident, independent, and strong individual and still be a sub. Just remember: you are not weak. You are the one choosing this lifestyle for yourself. Your submission is a gift that only you have the power to give. If being completely subservient feels too scary at first, start small. Work on keeping your words and demeanor respectful to your Master.
Give hime the opportunity to make choices for you. It will get easier with time, and soon you will begin to crave more and more. I hope this helps, and thanks again for stopping by! Hi Alora! Thank you for visiting! Georgia, I too struggle with this. It was easier to be a sub when I was not so confident and independent. I do it to feel owned because it fills a hole in my life, to feel someone depends on me entirely for their pleasure because I feel whole when I please someone.
I really enjoyed reading this. I was out of the life style for awhile but then met a man with similar desires and much knowledge. I am finding it hard to go back to the role while we are apart but as with anything I know this takes time to accomplish. Thank you for this article. Angie, Thank you so much for your comment! So I have been with my master for six years. I used to love it but since I had out little girl in August of last year the desire has plummeted. My master wants consistency which is understandable but I find it hard to juggle it all. I would suggest that you consider arranging such a weekend.
You go into your roles, let him get back into his comfortably, and then humbly ask to talk to him. If he does agree, offer future weekends of this nature. Promise to be the best sub you can be, and then follow through. Also offer to submit anytime the parental role can be set aside for a few hours. You will have to work out how to communicate this opportunity and how to accept it. Your skills as a loving sub will be heavily taxed. If you pull it off, the rewards will have been worth the effort. Give yourself time to adjust to what is in reality a new body, a new way of relating to both the world AND yourself.
And as was suggested for discussing this with your Dom, if he refuses to see you, hear you, respect you…major red flags. We counterintuitively hold much of the power here. And congratulations on your babe. Do you have any advice? Thanks in advanced! Hi Meghan! The above article and cheat sheet can help you get into the mindset and help you focus on your new identity. If you want to progress more you can find a partner to start enjoying the lifestyle more fully. I have tips plus step-by-step guides in my structured training program, Dom Sub Training. It can help you find a genuine partner and make BDSM a way of life.
I have one comment to the other female subs who are worried about losing their strong, independent personality, and that is to know that the sub is the one with the control in these relationships. So although you are doing anything your Dom asks of you within your limits and your goal is to make him happy, you get to determine what your limits are and then let him surprise you from there and satisfy your needs too!
Thank you for your kind advice for other subs. I realize this is a personal decision but the few friends she has trusted enough to tell them who and what she is …seem to snub her.Sub female needed
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